Following her miscarriage in 2018, actress Shay Mitchell decided to keep her second pregnancy a secret for as long as possible.
However, with keeping her pregnancy a secret, Mitchell had to lay low and change the way she lived her life for roughly six months. And while pregnancy, in general, can be hard for any woman, being isolated from her social life took its toll on Mitchell.
In an emotional YouTube video detailing the first months of her pregnancy, Mitchell broke down when talking about the difficult side of pregnancy when you’re keeping it a secret:
“When you stop doing what you have normally been used to doing, you know which for me was being social. When that kind of stopped, it really sort of messed me up a little bit. This is the sh*tty side of being pregnant when no one knows because you can’t go out to see anyone, you don’t want to see anyone because, anyways…I don’t feel myself.”
When Mitchell’s first pregnancy “didn’t go as planned,” it was important for her not to go public with her pregnancy until she was ready, comfortable, and sure of herself.
The actress said when she fell pregnant in 2018, she and her boyfriend, Matte Babel, hadn’t been planning to start a family. Nonetheless, they were “happy” and “really excited about it.”
It was at 14 weeks that she and Bebel learned that Mitchell had experienced a miscarriage:
“I had no idea the percentage of miscarriages. When it happened, I was just completely blindsided by it. I still have those photos on my phone and I still have all the doctor visits and it’s weird because I haven’t looked at them obviously, but it’s not like I forgot about that happening.
So, of course, I’m like super happy, I still feel for the one that I lost.”
According to March of Dimes, a miscarriage is classified by the loss of a pregnancy during the first 20 weeks:
For women who know they’re pregnant, about 10 to 15 in 100 pregnancies (10 to 15 percent) end in miscarriage. Most miscarriages happen in the first trimester before the 12th week of pregnancy. Miscarriage in the second trimester (between 13 and 19 weeks) happens in 1 to 5 in 100 (1 to 5 percent) pregnancies.
Because of the miscarriage, Mitchell even put off putting together their unborn child’s nursery. She said that she wanted to wait it out as long as possible before decorating the baby’s room.
The 31-year-old actress added that she feels “fortunate” that she’s only experienced one miscarriage because she knows some women who have “gone through a way harder journey.”
She admitted, “You feel broken as a woman and that’s not a great feeling.”
However, since sharing her news with the world, Mitchell is now fully enjoying her last few months of pregnancy.